🧠 Our Brain, Our Story: How Past Experiences Shape Who We Are Today
“We are not the people we were yesterday, and not yet the people we’ll be tomorrow. We are shaped by everything we’ve seen, done, and felt.”
🪞 Our perspectives are shaped by the experiences.
Sometimes, I get these quiet little thoughts — not dramatic, just… deep.
One day I had learned from Dr. Joe Dispenza that — “The brain is a record of the past.” This idea had huge impact on my way of thinking since then. So literally our brain is a living memory bank.
Everything we’ve gone through — the good, the bad, the random, the painful — it’s all recorded in there. And even if we’re not fully aware of it, it affects how we show up in the world.
💭 “Our patterns, reactions, even the way we love or protect ourselves — it’s all a reflection of what we’ve already lived.”
That’s why we all see the life so differently. Each of us is carrying a personal history that shapes how we move through the world.
🧠 On Thought Patterns and Growth
our minds don’t just react — they store, shape and create. They are the foundation of the life we are building.
I once discussed with a friend about “Brain is a record of past”, he disagreed and throw out the questions that if our brain only store past record, how are we creating new ideas and where all the people inventions comes from.
He was very valid with his question.
We don’t just come up with new ideas from a blank page, we use the past experiences that stored in our brain, we remember how we did it in the past and our brain have ability to analyze and “what if we try it in a different way, different approach, different input this time? that’s how we do research, experimenting and brainstorming. that’s how we grow, that’s how we create new ideas. It’s not about escaping the past, it’s about learning from it and reshaping it.
🧩 “Growth isn’t about erasing your past. It’s about learning from it.”
It’s about choosing differently — not because you’re starting from scratch, but because you remember how it felt the last time, and you want to do better.
Interestingly, this idea reminds me a lot of how AI works. Like in machine learning, it takes in a bunch of data, finds patterns, and tries to get better with each round. That’s kind of like us, right? We go through life, pick up experiences, and (hopefully) improve over time. Of course, the big difference is—AI doesn’t feel. It can learn, but it doesn’t reflect or imagine the way humans do. We’ve got emotions, intuition, and that little spark of unpredictability that makes our thoughts uniquely ours.
🧱 When I Hit a Wall
There was a time when I was completely burned out.
I was tired of being strong. Tired of being the reliable one.
When I finally reached out to my family, I didn’t receive comfort — only more pressure to keep going.
“I felt like I was trapped in a loop — constantly giving, constantly holding everything together, while quietly breaking on the inside.”
And then, a moment of clarity:
I remembered the version of me who made it.
The girl who moved to Singapore.
Who studied hard.
Who found her way through fear.
That girl was me. And she still is.
So I said no. I quit. I chose me. And my life began to shift.
🎨 Curating Life Like an Art Gallery
🖼️ “We don’t just absorb life — we curate it, like an art gallery.”
This moment? I’ll keep that.
That one? Doesn’t serve me anymore.
This idea? That becomes part of who I am now.
And that’s what I’ve learned.
We can’t always escape our past — but we can choose what to carry forward.
🕯️ A Soft Reminder
So if you’re feeling tired or stuck, or like the past is weighing on you…
Please remember:
💛 “You don’t need to become someone new.
You just need to remember the version of you who made it this far.”
She’s still there.
Still learning.
Still glowing.
🌱 That wasn’t just survival. That was transformation.
